Fifteen students, from both primary and secondary schools, were arrested over the weekend after being caught engaging in a sex orgy.
At the time of the arrest, these children of our mothers were smoking bang, drinking, having ‘the time of their lives’.
Taking this little escape from their parents as a chance to ‘fulfil their dreams’ in an almost comatose mental state. The mentioned orgy had been going on since Friday.
Meaning, by the time of the arrest, they had been ‘getting lit’ for about two days.
A while back we were having an argument with my friends on whether the choices a child makes as they grow up directly reflects on how they were brought up. Are our parents to blame? Are the choices we make reflective of who our mothers and fathers are?
I stand my ground that we have reached a point in the world where parents get to play a very dismal role in how their children end up. Not out of choice, but out of chance.
How many underage children do you know who spend more time with their parents than they do on social media? I know of none.
How many even bother to call their parents so often when they are out of sight? How many past would the age of 12 mention their fathers and mothers as their role models? Very few.
You know why?
Because our children are now being brought up by strangers on the Internet, and not actual people in their lives. We have left our parents with no say.
These children making news headlines today had informed their parents that they were going to church to prepare for a music competition.
The parents gladly said yes, only to be called with news that their children had been arrested in a room full of alcohol bottles and bhang and used condoms.
But then again this begs another question, do children of very strict parents end up making worse choices in life, as compared to those whose parents were a little ‘easy’ on them?
I always find it interesting of children who have to use going to church as an excuse with their parents. In my mother’s house, this kind of lie would never work.
She’d look at you for two full minutes before asking, ‘Since when did you start participating in church activities?’ You would have to cook another lie.
Thankfully, with Mom, we never had to (always) lie, she was the ‘easy’ parent. Which also means we never felt we had to behave liked caged lions just set free when out of her sight.
So maybe again, our parents do play a role. I feel this is a balance between the two. How we are brought up, and how much of the social space we allow to influence us.
If your parents are easy with you, you would feel comfortable asking questions on sex and relationships and diseases. Similarly, they would feel the need to talk to us about these things.
Our parents are aware that the world is not too safe for anyone, and at least they should have candid conversations on these issues with us. I feel maybe some parents trust the teachers to deliver on all aspects, which sadly, is not always the case.
Similarly, they would feel the need to talk to us about these things. Our parents are aware that the world is not too safe for anyone, and at least they should have candid conversations on these issues with us.
I feel maybe some parents trust the teachers to deliver on all aspects, which sadly, is not always the case.
We need to do this right, together as a society. Even more important to note is that the ultimate repercussions dwell with you, the decision maker. Choices have consequences.
Your bad choices will hurt you at the end, more than they will hurt anyone else. We might be sad when we lose you, but not sadder than you will be for losing yourself.